you do not have to show the house every single time a realtor calls you. I’ve been through this, and to be honest, they can be rude and persitent. They are not always showing your house because they think their clients are necessarily interested in your home, but merely because they want to compare your home to another house they think is actually a more favorable house for their clients. So, realize, you can say no, and you should say no if it’s not convenient, but suggest a time that’s more convenient for you and your family. Next, you do not have to buy a trailer and move your family into it. It’s kind of nutty to tell you the truth considering all you’ve got going on. I understand your desire to make this an easy transition, but really, open houses are NOT every weekend. Again, you have the power here. You can say “yes” and you can say “ummm, this isn’t a convenient time, but I’d be happy to have the house available for you xyz…” Whenever you deem xyz to be, then load the family up and go to the zoo or the movies or whatever. You have too much going on. It sounds as if Sunshine needs a lot of extra care so put your family first and let the realtors work around your schedule. Don’t stress out so much about this that it’s going to affect your family. Most people who look at homes realize a family lives in it. Just keep it clean, minimize the clutter, and just go with the flow, and pray… :0) Oh yes, my last house has about a half a dozen St. Josephs buried upside down all over the property. I can’t attest to whether or not he really works, but I do feel guilty that I’ve no idea where a single one of him actually is buried, so I’ve not been able to retrieve any of them (ditto for my second to the last home. Poor St. Joseph!). You might want to give him a go, but be a better homeowner than me, and for goodness sake, please dig the poor statue up when you sell the home rather than leave him forgotten, buried upside down in the dirt as I have a history of doing (and truly feel quite guilty about).
If he/she has been in the biz for long enough, they’ll not only have faced this situation, but seen a lot of different solutions to it (some that worked, some that didn’t). Talking with him/her and getting some options on paper, will help you figure out what will work and what won’t, before you spend any money. If your realtor thinks that’s dumb or blows off that concern, perhaps shop for a different realtor who understands how big a deal this is, and is willing to work WITH that reality, rather than AGAINST it. Remember, that realtor’s salary will be paid from your house’s proceeds, so you’re signing their paycheck. They work for you. If they’re working for you but not with you, find someone who will do both.
One additional option I thought of while writing this, was to rent a nearby house so that you could LIVE there, rather than camping all the time. If kiddos have a hard time with sudden change, visitors or whatever, the RV might not be much of an improvement. But a solid home with their specific bedroom assignments, might make the whole thing easier. And depending on your real estate market, it might be cheaper than buying an RV.
There are other ways of discipline besides spanking as you indicated, and parents who abdicate their responsibility to discipline, just because they are against spanking, give me great pause.
I gladly wear the title of “mean mommy”, she says that now, in the fact that I won’t write her a check for what she terms “HER educational fund” but this too will pass. She is a well behaved, well spoken and I never had a problem taking her out in public and wondering if she was going to turn rogue in the process. I think what she disliked most and what got her attention the quickest was when she would act out in public. I believed in where you did the crime, you did the time. She HATED the great unknown of how discipline was going to be metered if she misbehaved in a restaurant or in a store, or in church etc. She also wasn’t keen on the “village concept” and the fact that others who I left her in their care could discipline her AND tell me about her indiscretion for another punishment of my choosing. She once mentioned: “Is there anybody you don’t know?”
The schoolteacher in me, will make me comment to other parents when I’m out and about in reference to their children. I’m quick to tell a parent that their children are well behaved and how nice it is to see mannerable children, and I’m just as quick to tell them otherwise.